If you’re reading this, you’re probably a parent, and you’re probably frustrated with the way you’re currently dealing with your children. This frustration is normal and understandable. All parents make mistakes, and often it seems like we’re the only ones who get overwhelmed. Chances are, you do a great job with your kids and could just use some tips or advice on good parenting skills. a sort of refresher course. Remember, all parents make mistakes. It is important to learn from these mistakes.
There are four cornerstones that form the basis of good parenting. Think of them as skills you can develop and strengthen with practice:
1. Never be busy with your child. My father gave me this advice years ago when my son was born, and I always try to remember it. I think dad felt guilty that maybe he wasn’t good enough for me and regretted it now that I’m older and out of the house. It’s important to remember this and apply it, not only when your children ask for your time, but also to offer it when they don’t. There is no better gift you can give your child than showing your love by being available.
2. Appreciate your child. Everyone wants to feel appreciated, and your children are no exception. In fact, they need it most during their formative years as they develop their sense of identity and self-esteem. Thank your child for a job well done or recently completed and tell them how much you appreciate it. Most children really like to please their parents, even if it doesn’t seem like it sometimes. Show them you notice and appreciate what they do
3. Be kind to your child. This can be difficult for some parents because not all of us are naturally loving. I have no problem kissing and hugging my son and telling him I love him, maybe to the point where I drive him crazy, but at least he knows how I feel. The point is, don’t just assume your kids know how you feel. It’s so important to tell them, even if it’s just once in a while, and show them how much you love them through your actions.
4. Accept your child unconditionally. Your children are constantly testing you, even as they grow up. Sometimes they can be hard to hit. But if you don’t, who will? Your children need to know that you love them and accept them unconditionally. This does not mean that you accept or condone all of their behavior or actions, but you are always in their corner.