Most of the time, masturbation is something a guy does by himself. Whether it’s because he is concerned about maintaining penis health and knows that a guy needs to “use it or lose it,” or because he’s just in the mood to feel a little pleasure, a guy will make time for some masturbation. Some men, though, are interested in what it might be like to self-stimulate along with another guy. For these men, the following tips might prove helpful.
While masturbation among two or more men is clearly something likely to happen if a man is homosexual, it’s interesting to note that many heterosexual men have also masturbated with another guy. Exact statistics are hard to come by, but a recent CDC study indicated that 2.3% of men who identify as straight have engaged in oral or anal sex with another man. This would seem to indicate that an even larger number of straight men have masturbated with another guy – especially given the fact that such an activity may be even more common among puberty-aged males.
Since gay men are more likely to be in a situation where masturbation with another man is more likely, the following tips are more geared toward the straight man who has an interest.
– Know the reasons. A man should be aware of why he has this interest, and what he wants to get out of it. Is he curious about how other men masturbate? Does he seek validation that masturbation is “okay”? (It is, for the record!) Is he sexually aroused by the thought of other men self-gratifying? Does he feel it is a bonding experience? And is he interested in masturbating with men in general, or with a particular man or men?
– Know the anticipated fellow masturbator. Is the preferred partner a stranger or someone who is known – a friend, a colleague? If known, is there something about him – comments he has made, for example – that suggest he may or may not be open to masturbating with another man?
– Know the approach. Depending upon the preferred partner, a guy may be direct or subtle. For example, if a stranger is wanted, paying a visit to a local adult arcade may allow a guy to meet other men willing to masturbate openly while watching a peep show with another guy. If a friend, he might be open to simply asking, “Hey, I’ve always wondered what it’s like to masturbate with another guy. How about you?” Or is a more subtle approach called for?
– Subtle. If subtle, be aware that this may be a several-step process, and it could derail at any moment. For some, it may be enough to say, “I have this awesome porn DVD, want to watch it?” Then, while sitting and viewing the porn, a man may begin to check for signs – i.e., he gently massages his crotch, the other guy massages his – that hopefully lead to mutual masturbation.
But it may also take several tries – starting out just by talking about what gets him horny one day, talking about favorite fantasies another, discussing a particular porn star the next week, and finally moving on to a discussion about how much each man masturbates.
It’s also important to remember that the efforts may be met with a very strong rebuff – and a guy needs to be prepared for that and weigh that option before deciding to move forward.
Tips for masturbation, whether alone or with a partner, should also include the use of a first rate penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) to keep the penis looking impressive when it’s on display. Locate a crème that includes a range of vitamins, including A, B5, C, D and E, which when applied topically can give the penis enormous benefits. It’s also suggested that the crème contain acetyl L carnitine, especially if the penis is used roughly or frequently. This amino acid is superb at protecting against loss of penis sensitivity from improper usage.